Fears

This is a wonderful writing from my dear friend, Millie. She owns an organizing company called Bella Organizers out in New York.Here she writes about fears and letting go along with her intentions in approaching fears.I hope you enjoy!https://www.bellaorganizers.com/single-post/2019/10/30/Halloween-and-Letting-Go-of-Your-Fears

Halloween and Letting Go of Your Fears

When I was a little girl, I never really liked Halloween – the scary costumes, people wearing masks, and haunted houses (I must admit, you still can’t get me to go to a haunted house today!). As a child these were “scary things” but as an adult, I can easily categorize these feelings as fears. Logically, I knew that people were dressed up just for Halloween and that haunted houses were just for fun, but easily my imagination and the emotion of fear took over and logic was thrown out the window. Fears have a way of getting under our skin, stopping us from moving forward, and keeping us in our comfort zone. As a professional organizer, the fear that I come across the most from people I talk to and some of my clients is the fear of change. This is one fear that I can relate to and up until a couple of years ago, it ran my life. Something drastic had to happen before I was pushed to change, but once I let go, I saw how many opportunities were out there…

Here are some reasons that we may fear change:

• The fear of the unknown - we consider what we know to be safer, we settle

• Worried about what may be – we continuously ask ourselves, what if?, we overthink

• Self-doubt - we are afraid of failing

• Options - we forget that we have several options (we stay in situations we don’t want to be in)

• Staying in our comfort zone - we stay in our comfort zone and live in the past which prevents us from moving forward

Here are some steps that can help you let go of the fear of change and can be used for other fears that you may have:

• Accept uncertainty – do your best to let go of what you can’t control and focus on the fact that you can control how you see the situation

• Embracing the idea of risks – take risks that enhance your life like going after a new job or kicking a bad habit, sometimes the biggest risk is not taking a risk at all

• Avoid focusing on failure – instead of having the mindset of what if I fail, think of things turning out well

• Allowing excitement to trump fear – focus on the excitement of possibilities, living a better and most importantly happier life

• Seeking advice and surround yourself with supportive people– when I started my business, I was fortunate to have (and still have) great mentors and family and friends who believe in me

• Letting go – lett

  ing go of our fears to grow, even if it is by small steps

Today, I try to welcome change – I try to let go of my fears, be grateful for what I have, and embrace all the experiences that life has to offer.

I challenge you to let go of your fears and you just might be surprised at all the great things that come your way!